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([personal profile] jain Oct. 16th, 2014 12:41 pm)
My father passed away last night. It wasn't at all unexpected: he'd been suffering from dementia for a long time and had declined very badly in the past year or so, and we placed him on hospice this August.

I don't know if his death still hasn't sunk in for me yet, or if it's that his illness was so long and protracted that I've already gotten a lot of my grieving over with, but I'm feeling mostly okay right now. As far as I can tell, the rest of the family is about the same--even my mother, who was very devoted to him and whose reaction we'd all been worrying about. I think it really helps that my brother, his gf, and my baby niece moved home recently; the baby has been a welcome distraction for all of us.

And because we knew this was coming, my three siblings who live far away were able to come see Dad before he died (two of them could take over a month off of work and are still here now, while my youngest sister had to go back for school but will return for the memorial). That's helped a bit, too, knowing that everyone had the chance to say goodbye to him.
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From: [personal profile] dine

I'm sorry for your loss, but glad that family members had a chance to spend some time with him before he died; I hope your shared memories help
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From: [personal profile] semielliptical

I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like your family has been able to help each in this difficult time; I hope that continues.
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From: [personal profile] scribblemoose

I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself.
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From: [personal profile] thawrecka

My sympathies, but good to see you're bearing it well.
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From: [personal profile] romantical

I'm so sorry, but glad that you all got to spend time with him and say goodbye. It's never easy, but I think it makes it easier.